Part 2: Multiple Children, Motherhood, and Reality

Part 2: Multiple Children, Motherhood, and Reality

I once had visions of what my life would look like, especially my family life; the way I would raise my kids, what my house would look like. I saw myself running errands with my kids, crafting, cooking and holding frequent play dates and BBQs at OUR house. My cookie cutter parenting vision is, to be completely frank, none of the above. Yet I still long for; try to achieve, some of these varying aspects. Slowly, yet not quite completely, I've given up the reigns. Maybe it was turning the big 3-0 and I was tired of wanting instead of enjoying. Or just tired. I'm unmarried to my best friend who's the most unconventional man on earth (you can't categorize him even if we tried...unless of course, you want to be eternally perplexed) and although my kids have one of the most present and amazing fathers, I don't have the factotum (the conventional follow directions kind); let’s go out to...
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Warning: Extremely candid dialog about having multiple children

Warning: Extremely candid dialog about having multiple children

*Please read with grace for me and others, these sort of admissions are hard to express, especially publicly. My hope is that we can ask better questions of each other and maybe be a bit more understanding of one another. Pay attention, if you hold some of my projections or beliefs offensive or hard to hear, they may also be a unconscious belief you hold, or not :) You all are brave and beautiful so let's dive in: It seems greedy to want two kids but three? Now that just seems excessive.. Like who do I think I am? This is the kind of self judgement I feel and why I suspiciously look at other mothers with multiple children and think: “how unfair to the child"      “the older siblings just become babysitters”       “people just have kids to fill the empty places in their hearts”      “they have lots of money so they can hire help and literally don't have...
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