Warning: Extremely candid dialog about having multiple children

Warning: Extremely candid dialog about having multiple children

by Tiera1 Comment
*Please read with grace for me and others, these sort of admissions are hard to express, especially publicly. My hope is that we can ask better questions of each other and maybe be a bit more understanding of one another. Pay attention, if you hold some of my projections or beliefs offensive or hard to hear, they may also be a unconscious belief you hold, or not :) You all are brave and beautiful so let's dive in: It seems greedy to want two kids but three? Now that just seems excessive.. Like who do I think I am? This is the kind of self judgement I feel and why I suspiciously look at other mothers with multiple children and think: “how unfair to the child"      “the older siblings just become babysitters”       “people just have kids to fill the empty places in their hearts”      “they have lots of money so they can hire help and literally don't have...
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Finding your Tribe

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Edgy. That best describes how I’ve been feeling. It stems from a longing to be just myself and have those around me accept me for what I am –whatever that may look like. I’ve noticed when feeling vulnerable, sad, sick, or even going through transformations, my nearest and dearest are either absent or uneasy around me. I have that ubiquitous feeling that my emotional needs aren’t being met. Now you could be thinking, find new friends (!) and that may be so, but let me start with a story. Not so long ago while out with some friends and acquaintances, a delightful woman, whose husband typically has too much to drink and is usually a bit saucy for the average person, showcased herself exemplary in what it means to love someone, just as they are –in the moment, drunkenness aside. He was a bit demanding, overly loud, and a bit of a show. To the easily embarrassed or self conscious it would have been...
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